“Apologies are seldom, if ever given unless requested. Since they do not recognize that they are at fault, they do not spontaneously apologize, or the apology still blames you, “I’m sorry you got hurt”, for instance instead of, “I’m sorry I hurt you.”
The narc upbraided me for asking him to apologize for something early in the relationship. I learned that he was never to blame and I was undeserving of apologies, no matter what. If he did mouth the words, it was with shifting eyes, curled lip and a quick change of subject to something he could batter me with to re-gain the upper hand. Beware of wolves in sheep’s clothing!
Most of the behaviour of a narcissist is less than honest, not just the words that they speak. Narcissists have learned how to behave properly by paying attention to what society expects. They know to bring you gifts, when appropriate, for instance. They can devise ways of making themselves look considerate and caring and…
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