“What we need to understand is that we were brainwashed by a skilled predator. At some point in the relationship, we knew we were unhappy. There was a constant feeling of unease but we failed to acknowledge it or give any power to it. Consequently, we slowly began to operate from a state of semi-consciousness, only coming out of the coma when the relationship came to a debilitating end.”
Exactly. This post is right on about how we get sucked in and why it takes so long to realize what we have become.
There are thousands of websites that provide content related to Narcissistic abuse. On many of those sites, one often stumbles upon the word ‘FOG’. FOG is an acronym that stands for Fear, Obligation, and Guilt. Narcissists use FOG to keep their targets in a haze so they can’t see how they are using their emotions against them in order to make them doubt their own judgment and perceptions, thereby gaining complete control over them.
When the relationship comes to an end (as they always do with a Narcissist) targets are left with lingering questions such as: How did I not see what was happening? How did I fall for his (or her) tricks? How could I have been so blind? How do I get out of this constant state of anxiety? Why do I still love them?
What one needs to understand is that they were brainwashed by a skilled predator. Consequently, they slowly began to operate from a state of semi-consciousness, only coming…
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