More Facebook Irritations

05 Jan

Last night I was cruising around on the internet when I got a photo message on Facebook. It was a pic of the guy (let’s call him Dave ’cause that’s his name) who started the whole FB kerfluffle with the narc. It was a selfie in the bathroom mirror in his underwear with shaving cream all over his face like Santa. Whatever. He’d posted that shot to his wall to show off how he’s getting back in shape.

The conversation went like this (my thoughts at the time in bold):

Uh, huh. You already sent me this one.

I did ??I was going through some photos !!

Yeah, send me something new. Like a shot of him and his daughter skydiving – he’s got some amazing photos of that.

Ya I’m sure I’d make ya blush !!! Lol

I don’t blush so easily these days. Totally rolling my eyes, thinking it would be another “getting in shape” shot because he’s been posting a lot of them lately.

[Insert dick shot here. His hand is also in the shot, with wedding ring in full view]

Oh good !! Remember me !! Lol it’s all good : ) I’m real open with my sexuality !!

“Open with your sexuality?” Um…yeah. Like all boys, you just like to show off your dick. This after much eye rolling and head shaking. WTF a dick shot has to do with “sexuality” I don’t know. It does show that he’s still 13 years old and still not familiar with the dictionary, which I’ve always suspected. Thankfully I dodged that bullet or I would have been bored silly within a year.

True !! Haha .. It’s fun !

Sigh. Boys! I was starting to get irritated at this point. I mean, when did he think I invited him to send me dick pics? Never crossed my mind and I never suggested I would like to see it again. We haven’t seen each other in 25 years or more. Why would he think it’s appropriate? Because I’m in his Old Girlfriend Club? Am I supposed to reciprocate? WTF is he thinking? Besides the obvious.

Yep !! Nap time !! Yay .. Long day of snowboarding

Hope you had fun. Should you really be sending dick pics to a woman who is not your wife? I mean, you can see your wedding ring right there…I really doubt his wife knows about him sending pics to me and I doubt she would approve if she did and now I’m getting really pissed off for her sake.

We have a open relationship it’s not so complicated .. We are very open !

Uh-huh. I’ve heard that one before. Whatever, Dude. Even if it were true, I gave no indication that I wanted to get involved with him so it’s quite a stretch to be sending me this particular pic. Men that I know lie. A lot. I, however, do not, and I would not be a part of an “open relationship” with a married couple. Ewww. And yuck. And who the fuck does he think I am?

What ever !! Too funny ! It’s all good !! Just having fun ! Well now I feel stupid for just sharing with ya ! Probly burn in hell right ! Lol have a great night : ) going to bed !!

Wow !! Nothing ?? I logged out and went to bed, my brow furrowed in irritation, both that he sent such a pic and that I was so affected by it.

Sorry. Logged out to do something else. Trying to spend less time online this year

If you knew what I’ve been through the last 10 years you would not have sent that particular pic. Long story. Just don’t, okay? I am so done with cheating, lying assholes and that he had the nerve to send me an unsolicited dick pic really has me steamed.

Wow I feel like a dick .. Hope things get better for u..

Life is great now, but you broke my winning streak of being a penis-free zone for a year… Srsly. I had just 12 days left! I guess it counts that I haven’t seen one in real life, but dammit!

My first reaction was to send a scathing note back, but he’s an ignorant redneck and he probably thinks shit like this really is funny, so I temperedย  my response and refrained from giving him a lecture about his treatment of women as objects, starting with his disrespect of his wife. He wouldn’t get it and I don’t have that kind of time.

Am I wrong thinking that shit like his is precisely what’s wrong with the world today? Why would he think I’m up for games of this kind? I realize that I’m totally Un-Cool for not playing along, but I don’t want to play along! It’s not funny. At all. It’s demeaning. He could have sent a shot of his smiling face and we could have talked about anything under the sun (although his interests are pretty narrow to judge by his FB wall) but he decided to make a sexual overture instead, leaving me feeling squicky. Yes, squicky is a word and it means exactly what it sounds like.

Am I wearing a sign that declares to men that I’m available? Do I send out some sort of signal that I’m in desperate need of a penis, so please send me dick pics so I can change my status to “taken” once again and make all of humanity feel safe? Why do men (and some women, I know) feel entitled to assault others in this way? Why do we feel like they’ll think we’re assholes for not playing along? Sure feels like emotional battery to me and that’s probably why this little exchange affected me enough to write an entire blog post about it.

Gaaahhhhhhh!!!!! The fucking entitlement complex of some men!


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48 responses to “More Facebook Irritations

  1. Paula

    January 5, 2014 at 11:28 am

    It baffles the mind. It’s happened in recent months to me, and I am pretty damn transparent about who I am and what I write. It’s as if some men and women think they are so above having a moral code that others can be easily swayed to join them. No thank you!!! “A penis picture is the fastest and easiest way to get me to shut down and delete you as a friend, buddy!” It’s disrespectful and degrading on so many levels.

    • Sofia Leo

      January 5, 2014 at 7:04 pm

      Happy to hear it’s not just me! It’s so sad that having a shallow “conversation” with a former boyfriend prompts him to send me inappropriate photos. I just don’t get it.

  2. JackieP

    January 5, 2014 at 11:36 am

    Well the only sign a lot of men need is….you are a woman! Period. I’ve had that happen to me also a few times. I just laugh at them and ask, “Is that ALL you got?” It usually stops them cold and I never hear from them again. Like you I never asked or referred that I wanted to see their dick. But some men only think with the small head and not the big one. I would get super irritated also.

    • Sofia Leo

      January 5, 2014 at 7:04 pm

      Right. And we were intimate. 27 years ago. I guess that’s recent enough to jog his memory?

      • JackieP

        January 5, 2014 at 7:10 pm

        Hell even if you weren’t intimate he’d still go there. Sigh.

      • Sofia Leo

        January 6, 2014 at 8:31 am

        But why? I just don’t understand why men think that all women are available at any time. This was nothing more than an invitation, but I never expressed any interest in being invited, so why would he think it was appropriate? What right does he have to treat me that way? Gaaahhhhh!

      • JackieP

        January 6, 2014 at 10:12 am

        I know it’s frustrating. There is NO understanding their mind girl. None. Don’t even try because it would drive you insane.

  3. Jenny Sheppard

    January 5, 2014 at 12:42 pm

    Love Jackie’s answer, I have said that before to guys too ….I swear they think the one eye snake has a brain LOL….NOT!!

    • Sofia Leo

      January 5, 2014 at 7:05 pm

      If only they could be trained to think with something else ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. H. Stern

    January 5, 2014 at 2:25 pm

    You should have said, “wait a minute while I increase the photo size. I’m having a hard time seeing what you sent. Is that your pinky?”

    In all seriousness, I take things like that the way anyone would take an unwanted sexual advance. And while it’s disrespectful to his wife, I honestly think it’s MORE disrespectful to you. He didn’t ask if you wanted this, he forced it upon you. Whatever little situation he has worked out with his wife, you have no such understanding, and he’s assuming that you are perpetually open and and eager to receive dick shots.

    ……why are you still friends with him, again?

    • Sofia Leo

      January 5, 2014 at 7:06 pm

      When I signed back up with FB I found that my old account was still active, with all 17 friends still there. I didn’t go looking for this guy or anyone else, he was just there. Generally speaking he’s not such a jerk and this whole experience has taken me by surprise. Guess testosterone poisoning takes a few years to manifest symptoms ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. behindthemaskofabuse

    January 5, 2014 at 2:37 pm


  6. 3kids2cats1divorce

    January 5, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    Ewwww. Feeling better about my choice to stay the hell away from Facebook. Didn’t realize it was Dickbook.

    • Sofia Leo

      January 5, 2014 at 7:07 pm

      Until now it hasn’t been dickbook for me, but there ya go!

  7. Twindaddy

    January 5, 2014 at 6:02 pm

    Sounds like it’s time to use the block button…

    • Sofia Leo

      January 5, 2014 at 7:07 pm

      It probably is. Sigh. Shit like this makes me want to live in a cave somewhere…

      • Twindaddy

        January 6, 2014 at 5:33 am

        People suck.

      • Sofia Leo

        January 6, 2014 at 8:39 am

        They do. Sigh. Do I just lock myself away with the cat and dog and learn to tat to avoid more shit like this?

      • Twindaddy

        January 6, 2014 at 8:42 am

        I have no idea if there’s a surefire way to avoid these kinds of people.

      • Sofia Leo

        January 6, 2014 at 8:42 am

        If you come up with anything, let me know ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Twindaddy

        January 6, 2014 at 8:44 am

        I’ll package it and sell it if I do.

      • Sofia Leo

        January 6, 2014 at 8:45 am

        Good idea! I’d buy one ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Twindaddy

        January 6, 2014 at 8:47 am


  8. Awana

    January 5, 2014 at 7:54 pm

    Just take to your bed for awhile get up, and move on. You had the audacity to be polite…to a man. Now you know better. And seriously–high school??? That is no place for friends in the United States after WWII. Then they bonded over education; now we just rape and kill each other because it is the prison we are forced to go to for a paltry 5 days a week for a scant nine months of the year. I am sorry you got weak. Is this one of those “lessons learned”? You cannot be friends with men!!!!!!………………………..IMNSUO………………………yeah and rednecks who have co-opted the phrase “open relationship” are just gross…no nuance there. Well, time to wash off this mess and start over. Sorry about the zone; don’t you hate it when somebody else messes up the path to your goals? And watch “This Boy’s Life”….

    • Sofia Leo

      January 6, 2014 at 8:35 am

      You’re right, but I expected better from this particular man. The Dave I knew would not have sent that pic. He was respectful of women and an all around Nice Guy. I guess he grew up to be Typical. Sigh. Sad, for him, his wife and his kids.

      I see what you’re saying about my “falling for it,” and that makes me very sad. That I can’t have an online conversation with a friend from long ago without it turning to sex is a sad testament to what our society has become. I mean, I’m beginning to think that can’t have a conversation with any man that has NO sexual overtones? Really? All I am is a sperm receptacle? Forever?

  9. El Guapo

    January 5, 2014 at 8:46 pm

    Doesn’t make you uncool at all.
    Makes him an even bigger dick for not realizing he was being a dick in the first place.

    • Sofia Leo

      January 6, 2014 at 8:37 am

      Unfortunately, I doubt he’s self-aware enough to think deeply about the pain he might have caused me. He certainly hasn’t sent an apology. Whatever. Chalk it up to (yet) another learning experience.

  10. Sex, Spirit, Soul Mates and Chocolate....Ivonne's Journey

    January 5, 2014 at 9:18 pm

    You have a vagina so yeah that makes you available to the a-holes out in the world, or so they think. Totally rude to send dick pix—-next time write back–lol, but it’s so small what am I supposed to do with that?! ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Sofia Leo

      January 6, 2014 at 8:38 am

      I didn’t even want to insult him about size because that keeps the conversation about his dick instead of where it should have been – the betrayal of his wife and our friendship, not to mention what trauma it might have caused me for reasons he is not aware of. Bantering would just have encouraged him…

  11. Becki Duckworth

    January 5, 2014 at 10:16 pm

    Wow, sick asshole. His wife needs to know… oh maybe one day his daughter as well….. What pisses me off is so many think this ok, they send nude pics to others all the time… What an arrogant DICK !!

    • Sofia Leo

      January 6, 2014 at 8:38 am

      Don’t think I want to be the one responsible for his consequences by contacting his wife. He may be telling the truth about their “open relationship” and then I’ll really look like a bitch.

      • Becki Duckworth

        January 6, 2014 at 10:21 am

        I understand. It’s hard to think that people are ok with open relationships.

  12. Melanie

    January 6, 2014 at 7:43 am

    I hate unsolicited dick pics. They happen so often too. It enrages me every time, and you were way cooler about it that I am. And what is it with it coming from married men? Seriously. It seems like when I’m flirting with a man, and it comes up he’s married (because it’s “always” an accidental mention that they have a f^cking wife!), it’s like as soon as I say thanks but no thanks, the dick pic comes along like a big, fat, look what you’re missing, except I’m not missing anything at all. Grrrr!

    • Sofia Leo

      January 6, 2014 at 8:42 am

      I know, right? Does every married man secretly want a harem? I don’t appreciate the thought that I’ll figure prominently in his next fantasy, at the very least, or be the object of a romantic pursuit. Where do these ideas come from? How many ways can I say that I don’t want a penis in my life before I’m believed and treated as a Human first and an Available Woman last?

      • Melanie

        January 6, 2014 at 10:31 am

        Apparently we aren’t complete without a penis in our lives. How dare we want to and manage to function well without one.

      • Sofia Leo

        January 6, 2014 at 4:18 pm

        Exactly. Single women are considered a threat. Let’s just hope they don’t bring back burning at the stake…

  13. djmatticus

    January 6, 2014 at 10:28 am

    I don’t even know what to say.
    In all the relationships I’ve been in, I’ve never once thought – Hey, I should send a picture of my you know what, that’ll be sexy/awesome/hilarious. And that was to people I’m in relationships with currently. I can’t even imagine sending a picture like that to someone outside that scope…
    I’m with TD on this one, block him. Because who knows what he is thinking if he’s sending that picture and you don’t need that kind of crazy in your life right now.

    • Sofia Leo

      January 6, 2014 at 4:17 pm

      You can bet that any future male in my life will be asked the simple question, “have you ever sent an unsolicited picture of your junk to anyone?” If the answer is yes, no matter the qualifiers, it’s a Deal Breaker and I will be sure to tell him so. There’s just no excuse. At any age. Sheesh. What is wrong with people?

  14. Pippa Pirrip

    January 6, 2014 at 10:33 am

    You were nicer than me! Above other things, I’d have forwarded a screen shot to his wife.

    • Sofia Leo

      January 6, 2014 at 4:18 pm

      Looks like the situation has been resolved – I’ve been un-friended and blocked ๐Ÿ™‚

      • Pippa Pirrip

        January 8, 2014 at 8:00 am

        Ha! Lucky you!

  15. Laura

    January 6, 2014 at 1:59 pm

    At least you can delete him. I feel sorry for his wife. I wonder if she knows they’re in an open relationship? Often times the other spouse is the last to know. You were way more polite than I would’ve been. I would’ve unfriended and blocked him right away. What is it with some people thinking that others need to see photos of their “stuff”? For him to read that into your comment, when all you were thinking of was skydiving photos, shows you where his head is at (both of them – hah!). It also gives an indication of the caliber of person he is used to chatting with that he defaults to dick photos so easily. I say good riddance. You don’t need his “crazy” in your life.

    • Sofia Leo

      January 6, 2014 at 4:19 pm

      The Crazy is gone ๐Ÿ™‚

  16. pixiegirlkc52

    January 7, 2014 at 10:31 am

    maybe it’s just me…but I’ve never gotten a dick pic that made my crotch burst into flames of desire and lust. Dick pics are just….silly.

    • Sofia Leo

      January 7, 2014 at 11:15 am

      I know, right? Doesn’t do a thing for me. Well, it does make me mad, but that’s hardly what they expect, is it?

  17. LAMarcom

    March 24, 2014 at 8:08 am

    With the advent of the internet, massive hordes of incredibly stupid people have been unleashed on the world.

    Great post.

    • Sofia Leo

      March 24, 2014 at 9:19 pm

      It might be bearable if they could at least spell and use basic grammar ๐Ÿ™‚


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