M likes to make a big deal of birthdays. He thinks that the birthday person should be treated all day – gifts, special dinner, etc.
He has a birthday coming up next week. Every year I tie myself in knots to find a meaningful, thoughtful gift to give him. Every year it’s never quite right. Most of the time it’s not even close.
On my last birthday I got nothing. As the day wore on, and he didn’t even wish me a Happy Birthday, I became a little down. Usually he buys me a box of chocolates. This year he gave me a lecture. Since I hadn’t been treating him very well, he felt that I did not deserve a birthday present. “Hurts, don’t it?” he asked, and left the room.
On my last birthday he had the following exchange with his “stalker” in Italy:
Him: If we lived closer, I could teach you some boatbuilding myself. An you could teach me how to sing. (and speak Italian)
Her: that would be nice. kind of you. sounds… confortably. 🙂
italian is not so difficult.
Him: I have trouble with languages. I speak with my heart.
Her: i know you have. but your heart is good enough.
better to speak with it than with a tongue,be sure.
So my question for you is this: should I repay him in kind this year?