Feminism Isn’t Hard

There has been so much riot mongering in the press lately about gender issues that I’ve gone on a news blackout. One absurd story after another that does nothing more than get both sides of every issue ranting at each other and I’ve had enough. I have no doubt it’s a great diversionary tactic. Anyone know what’s happening over seas? How many soldiers died today in a senseless war that’s not at all about oil (wink, wink)? How many states passed legislation limiting the birth control options of women? I could go on and on, but, hey! Football!

This guy breaks it down in easy to understand terms. Especially at 2:23-ish. Srsly folks, get a grip!

If I end up talking with someone about sexist issues, I prefer to use the term “non-sexist” instead of “feminist” because saying the word “feminist” has such a violent reaction from people on both sides of the issue. If a woman has short hair and declares herself a feminist she will likely be called a lesbian. How does that even make sense? Has everyone gone crazy? I know The Golden Rule is hopelessly old-fashioned, so how about we adhere to Wheaton’s Law? Wouldn’t the world be a better place?

I can’t even write coherently about this subject today because of all the freaking out by people who would know better if they just closed their mouths and thought about it for one second. If you’re a “friend” of mine on social media and suddenly you find yourself dropped from my news feed, yes, it was done on purpose. Quit yer bullshit people bashing!


Posted by on October 2, 2014 in Battle of the Sexes, Crazy, Rants, right?


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Share Your World – Week 39

In the spirit of getting back to regular posting, here’s the next installment of Cee’s Share Your World -

Did you ever get lost?

yup. For 25 years. Thankfully I’ve found myself again :-) Oh, wait! Is that what this question is about? Maybe it means have I ever been lost while traveling somewhere? Nope. I have good Travel Karma and know how to read a map. I’ve taken many detours and a few Paths Less Traveled, but I’ve never been truly lost in the world.

Who was your best friend in elementary school?

I really couldn’t say. I remember having a few friends, but darned if I could name them now.

Since the news television season has started in the US, list three favorite TV shows.

Grey’s Anatomy, Sons of Anarchy and How to Get Away With Murder. There are a few others. I’m woefully behind with my TV and movie watching because the narc didn’t approve and I haven’t really had much time to keep up with the new stuff.

If you were a mouse in your house in the evening, what would you see your family doing?

Me – sitting on the couch knitting and/or watching TV now that the weather is cooling down. It would be quite late, after 9:00 or so.

Sabu – laying on the floor at my feet keeping an ear cocked for any noise outside. She enforces a 15′ Safety Radius around the trailer – anything that moves within her protective bubble starts her growling.

Revy the RV Kitty – he’d be outside until 10, prowling around, doing what cats do. Except he’s not sure he IS a cat, which causes some confusion with the neighborhood cats who don’t know what to think of him, either. He consorts with DOGS, after all. It’s hilarious. He comes to the door at 10-ish, ready to come in and eat his wet kibble.

Bonus question:  What are you grateful for from last week, and what are you looking forward to in the week coming up?

Met up with friends at the Oregon Flock & Fiber Festival on Sunday to see if there were any bargains at the parking lot fleece sale. We’ve got some things in the works that I’ll blog about later this month and were scouting supplies. Bought three fleeces and I’m looking forward to getting them washed and carded for spinning. It was a fantastic weekend that marks the beginning of a very busy couple of months coming up. Awana, Jean and I are off on a new adventure!


Posted by on October 1, 2014 in Memes, Share Your World



The Myth of the Narcissist – Seeing Through the Illusion

Sofia Leo:

Yup. This. Nevermore.

Originally posted on Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed:

Free Woman

by ~Gina Fant-Saez~

You said the most beautiful things
and sounded evolved and sincere
With intentions unquestionably true
And ambitions insightfully clear

I used to bathe in your words
believed you hungry for change
and willing to finally work
for all the things that you craved

it was a beautiful dream
to see you free and alive
your heart soaring in love
your body floating with mine

But you said what I wanted to hear
in language all gilded in grace
carefully crafted to match
the beauty I saw in your face

Now I see you’re a beautiful shell
With hollowing darkness inside
And you’ve grown so used to the dark
That now you’re afraid of the light

Lacking the courage to face
Your mirror of careless mistakes
The years and money you’ve wasted
Destruction left in your wake

Now you’re sorry you’ve hurt me again
As your…

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Posted by on September 29, 2014 in Uncategorized


Warning Signs You’re Dating a Loser

Warning Signs You’re Dating a Loser

Sofia Leo:

Here’s a very good explanation of how “normal” people can be manipulated by the disordered and what those manipulations look like. It’s not an instant thing – the abuse starts slowly, over time, and before you know it, well, you’re in very deep. Great post!

Originally posted on Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed:

Written by Joseph M. Carver, Ph.D., Psychologist

** September 27, 2003, but still very relevant in today’s world of Narcissism!



Very few relationships start on terms other than sweetness and politeness. In the beginning, “the honeymoon” of the relationship, it’s difficult to determine what type of individual you are dating. Both you and the date are guarded, trying to obtain information about the other as much as possible without seeming like a police detective.

Romantic relationships can be wonderful with the right person. A relationship with the wrong individual however can lead to years of heartache, emotional/social damage, and even physical damage. A damaging adult partner can damage us, damage our loved ones, and even damage the way we feel about love and romance in the future. They can turn what is supposed to be a loving, supporting, and understanding relationship into the “fatal attraction” often described in movies. There…

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Posted by on September 25, 2014 in Uncategorized


Share Your World – Week 38

November is going to be impossible, so why not see if I can get back to some sort of regular posting before then.

Because it’s Wednesday, here’s another installment of Cee’s Share Your World challenge!

This week’s questions -

If you could be a tree or plant, what would you be?

I would be a cactus – sitting in the sun all day, blooming only after a perfect storm, enough long spines to keep the assholes away.

If you could have a servant come to your house every day for one hour, what would you have them do?

Bathe the dog and clean the litter box :-)

If you could have an endless supply of any food, what would you get?

Pork. Bacon, ham, chops. Love me some pig!

What was one of your first moneymaking jobs (other than babysitting or newspaper delivery)?

My first Real Job was as a painter in a hotel. It was a learning experience, to say the least. I discovered that no one wanted to hear what I really thought about shallow girls who “forgot” to wear a bra on the job and spent the entire day bragging about it to the only boy on the crew :-/



Posted by on September 24, 2014 in Memes, Share Your World



Busy Summer!

I know, I know! I’ve been…absent…for awhile now. Life has been busy and I’ve been distracted. No worries – it’s All Good, just busy.

Posted a short update over at Starting Over Designs for those of you interested in the Fiber Stuff.

In lieu of an update post, here are the Share Your World questions from weeks 35, 36, & 37. Where does the time go?

Week 35 -

Have your blogging goals changed?

I started this blog as a hidden diary to keep track of what was happening with an abusive partner. I felt like I was losing my mind because of all his gaslighting, lying and manipulations. The documentation and friends I found in the WP community enabled me to break free from him for good and I am so grateful for all of you for sticking with me and offering advice when I needed it most. Now I chronicle my New Improved Life and the tone is quite different. More to come :-)

If you were to perform in the circus, what would you do?

I would work with cats, the bigger the better. I love house cats and their large cousins and would do my best to ensure their fair treatment as they amazed audiences everywhere.

If you could go back and talk to yourself at age 18 what advice would you give yourself?  Or if you are younger than 25 what words of wisdom would you like to tell yourself at age 45?

I would tell myself that my thighs were NOT fat :-) Also, enjoy those boobs while you can – pregnancy is gonna take them from you soon.

What is your favorite comfort snack food?

I don’t really eat for comfort, but I guess ice cream. The more chocolat-y the better.

Week 36 -

Do you prefer reading coffee table books (picture), biographies, fiction, non-fiction, educational?

I’ve been reading a lot of dystopian fiction lately, most of it written by indie authors on my kindle. There are some incredible writers out there you’ve never heard of. I’ll try to remember to write a post strictly about them some time soon.

What is your biggest fear or phobia? (no photos please)

Not being able to breathe. I don’t like small spaces and the thought of being trapped in a coffin-like prison seriously creeps me out.

What is your favorite cheese?

Mozzarella. On pizza. Or quiche.

What is your favorite month of the year?

April because it marks the beginning of Spring here and it’s my birthday month.

And Week 37 -

List three pet peeves.

Idiots, assholes and perverts.

What makes you unique?

Most everything about me does not conform to society’s definition of “normal,” from the short hair to the bare feet, so I’m not sure what to answer for this one. I’ve always been different.

Would be your ideal birthday present, and why?

A day off from all responsibilities, a hot bath in a claw-foot tub with plenty of tea and chocolate and some really good books to read all day. I would bathe and read and nap and not let the world intrude for a full 24 hours. No reality allowed :-)

Which way does the toilet paper roll go? Over or under?

My roll mounts sideways atop an old three-legged candle holder. It unrolls clockwise and the end is tucked into the top of the roll or gravity unwinds it onto the floor. Neither, I guess. See? Unique :-)

And that’s all we have time for on this busy Friday! I will be out and about all weekend, maybe posting from the Studio, maybe too busy spinning and sewing to think about the blog, but either way I’ll be soaking up the last of the Summer heat and getting ready for Autumn.

Have a great weekend everyone!


Posted by on September 19, 2014 in Uncategorized


Share Your World – Weeks 32, 33 and 34

It’s been a very busy couple of weeks Summer here and it doesn’t look like it will be slowing down any time soon. Today is slow at work I’m totally slacking off at work, so let’s get caught up with Cee and her Share Your World challenge.

Week 32 -

Do you prefer ketchup or mustard?

Ketchup all the way. You can have all the mustard because it’s gross. Except mustard seeds – they are great when toasted in mashed potatoes.

If someone made a movie of your life would it be a drama, a comedy, a romantic-comedy, action film, or science fiction?

Dramady – some things have been funny and others have been pure drama. I refuse to be defined :-)

If you could be given any gift what would it be?

The power of flight. That would be cool – I have places to go!

For potlucks or parties do you cook it yourself, buy from a grocery store, or pay for catering?

Cook it myself. Mostly. I don’t get out much…

Week 33 -

Do you believe in ghosts? 


Irregardless of your physical fitness, coordination or agility:  If you could play any sport professionally what would it be?  Or if you can’t picture yourself playing sports, what is your favorite sport?

Hahahahahahahahaha! Sports? Is Dressage a sport?

Do you prefer long hair or short hair for yourself?

Short. Really Short. Short enough that lesbians hit on me. Sigh. Why should men get all the short hair ease of morning routines? It’s just not fair. Besides, my hair is not “good” hair and it makes me look old and sad when it’s long. Also, fuck all those guys who won’t date women who wear their hair to please themselves instead of giving in to pressure to fulfill a male fantasy.

If you were on an small island, who would you want to be with? And where is it?  How big is it?

I would be alone. Blissfully alone. Perhaps I would be a lighthouse keeper along some storm-tossed shore with a room full of books and a blazing fire. A boat would bring provisions every month or so.

Week 34 -

What is your favorite smell? What memory does it remind you of?

I love lavender, coconut and some musk scents. No particular memories, just feelings of contentment, peace and comfort.

Name a song or two which are included on the soundtrack to your life?

“So What” by Pink

“All About the Bass” by Meghan Trainor

“Alright” by Darius Rucker

Do you play video/computer game?  Which one(s) or most recent? 

Haven’t played in years, but I liked Quake once upon a time.

Which of Snow White’s 7 dwarfs describes you best?  Plus what would the 8th dwarf’s name be? (Doc, Happy, Bashful, Sleepy, Sneezy, Grumpy, Dopey)

Happy, no doubt. The eighth dwarf would be called Bob.

That’s all we have time for today, but expect an update post that may or may not make sense tomorrow. Or Thursday. Or sometime soon. Or not. It all depends…


Posted by on September 2, 2014 in Memes, Share Your World



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